Take The 60 Second Quiz To Find Out If He's Thinking About Marriage

Relationships are tricky things, not just for how to handle certain situations, but also deciding when and if you are going to go to the next level; because even if you are willing too, they might not be. And what's worse, sometimes you SHOULDN'T continue the relationship - no matter how cute, nice, or "perfect" - they might be.

So how can you tell? Well, aside from your family and friends' advice (which you might already have), there are multiple ways to figure that out. Want to know what those ways are? Take this quiz and find out! But first, here are a few more things to consider.

There is one saying that has been monumental for my relational life during this roller-coaster called dating: "sometimes we meet the right person at the wrong time.". For a relationship to WORK you need a whole slew of formulaic "rights" - some of which you may already have - but perhaps not enough. And that is when it absolutely sucks. BUT never fear! Perhaps you ARE in the perfect sweet-spot of your relationship and just want to know how he'll propose (or get ideas) and who wouldn't?! In today's society where everything can be instantly put onto Instagram and Facebook, you'll want a hint on how he'll propose so that you're ready for it! Well, here we go!

Question 1

How long have you been dating?

The amount of time that you’ve been dating is crucial when figuring out if you want to take the next step, especially for getting engaged. While the length doesn’t always mean when, or if, you should get engaged, it does tell how much you should have matured as a couple.

Question 2

Do you still feel special?

There is always that initial phase where you feel special. However, that period does eventually die. Do you both individually work hard to keep that phase alive EXACTLY like how it was when you first started? Or do you let it adapt? Or did it just die?

Question 3

Do you keep the romance alive?

There is a difference between feeling special and romance. Feeling special means that your partner does tiny things that let you know they’re paying attention to your needs. Romance is making sure that you are doing things you two enjoy as a couple to keep growing.

Question 4

Do they listen to you?

Having a partner that listens to you is perhaps one of the most important foundational aspects of a romantic relationship. Communication - no matter how much you hate, or suck, at it - CANNOT be let go. That’s how fantastic couples, the kind you think will last forever, die quickly and painfully.

Question 5

Do YOU listen to THEM?

You need to reciprocate this particular activity, even if their life is boring or has no drama (like yours). Relationships are 50/50, meaning that what they do for you, they probably expect in return. And listening is DEFINITELY something you want to do.

Question 6

What is the best part of your relationship?

Being able to specifically pinpoint one (or perhaps several) good points about your relationship shows that you are mature in your relationship, and more importantly, confident and content with your partner. It also proves that you’ve had to think about it during a heated argument (which is good, I promise).

Question 7

Can you both compromise?

Even though it sucks sometimes, being able to compromise shows that you have a healthy relationship (but don’t compromise too much!). While it seems odd, compromising means that you’re able to put your partners needs ahead of your own and recognize when you should, or shouldn’t do that.

Question 8

Do you let them be mad at you?

This part of any argument sucks, but you need to let your partner feel that they have the freedom to be annoyed and/or angry with you (even if it’s a little unreasonable). It shows that you’re allowing them to be themselves and express their emotions around you - you’re safe.

Question 9

Do they let you be angry at them?

This is a REALLY important part of relationship: if you two can fight and if they can be angry at you, then there are going to be days where you CANNOT let your guilt/inner voice talk you out of being angry at them for a little bit.

Question 10

Are you able to resolve conflict?

Resolving conflict - like compromise - is a huge eye-opener about your relationship. Resolving doesn’t mean JUST admitting if you were right or wrong, it’s finding a way to ensure that that particular fight never happens again, that you’ve truly put this particular argument to rest.

Question 11

Even if it's difficult?

Resolving conflicts can sometimes take DAYS, WEEKS OR EVEN YEARS to fully resolve. But you both have to be willing to put the effort in and not let inner resentment simmer under the surface. Are you willing to take a step down and look at it in retrospect?

Question 12

Can you be yourself?

Being yourself in a relationship is something that never happens until a couple months in, no matter how authentic you are in the early stages. You may not hide anything, but you definitely won’t share certain things right away. So then, can you be yourself, warts (I hope not) and all?

Question 13

Can they be themselves?

Again (as you’ve probably noticed, this is going to be a theme with this quiz), this is a RECIPROCAL part of a relationship. If you can be yourself (however weird that may be), so should they. If they isn’t comfortable being 100% themselves with you, there’s a problem.

Question 14

Do you like their hobbies?

Sometimes people like doing some pretty weird things. Maybe your beau is into some kind of weird hobbies, like painting miniatures. Or maybe they like normal things that just eat up a lot of time like gaming. Either way, how do you feel about their hobbies?

Question 15

Do you like their friends?

Liking the friend group is a BIG DEAL. Think about it, you’re on the brink (potentially) of engagement, and their friends are STILL there (aka: they’re not leaving anytime soon). If you can’t live with them, you’re going to have to think about this…

Question 16

Do your friends like them?

Again - important. You should really listen to your friends (especially the life-long, close ones) about whether they like him or not. If you’ve been dating this person for awhile and they’re resigned about your upcoming engagement, that should be a yellow flag to you (trust me, I’ve been there).

Question 17

Do they like their job?

If your partner likes their job, then chances are they’re ready to go to the next step (aka making the move-in situation a bit more permanent). But if they’re not 100% satisfied with where they are, engagement might be a bit farther down the line than you think.

Question 18

Are you happy with their job?

The job your partner has, especially when you’re looking at marriage, is really important because whether you like it or not, it’ll dictate a lot of your life. For instance, if they travel a lot then be prepared to not see your fiancé for longer periods at a time.

Question 19

Are you happy with your job?

While being happy for your partner in their job, and being happy with their job, is important - it’s also important that you’re happy with your job. If you’re miserable in it, you’ll be miserable (eventually) at home, and your partner will pick up on that.

Question 20

Do they like your job?

While you being happy with your partner’s job is GREAT, they also have to be happy with your job (for instance: do they complain about your hours, normally?) If they’re not happy with your job, it could result in a huge fight later on, or it might affect you moving forward.

Question 21

Do you live together?

For many couples this is the per-engagement phase: it’s where you learn what living with that person is like, and if you can truly handle being with them for that long. Depending on how long you’ve lived with them, it may already feel like being married without the ring.

Question 22

Do you celebrate milestones?

Relational milestones are a big deal, whether you’re a couple that celebrates them traditionally (like a fancy meal), or not. (*ahem* anniversaries). Now, you can obviously go overboard with this, but if you don’t even remember how long you’ve been dating, there’s a problem.

Question 23

Do you celebrate your anniversary?

Anniversaries are that one thing that tv comedies have been making fun of since “I Love Lucy”. Let’s be honest, there’s always that ONE person in the relationship that forgets it, or is not on top of how close that date is (it was me), but do you still celebrate it?

Question 24

Are your close friends in serious relationships?

Often, your friend group will help you figure out if taking the next step is something you want to do. If you’re the only one who is in a serious relationship, it can cause strain on your friendship, but also, if it’s not the right relationship, make you question it.

Question 25

Are you talking about the future together?

Talking about the future is a SURE sign that you guys are headed in the right direction! It shows that you are already thinking about moving forward with that person - and already making certain life decisions and compromises about how those decisions will look.

Question 26

Can you see yourself with this person forever?

Being able to imagine yourself in a life-long commitment with this particular person is, honestly, a HUGE part about whether or not you’re working on making this relationship work (they all need it). If you’re not sure, then perhaps engagement at this time is not the best idea.

Question 27

Do you have hobbies you do together?

Doing certain activities together is part of what solidifies you as a couple: it lets you and your partner learn certain life-long traits, such as compromise, problem-solving, encouraging and even criticizing. This will not only be helpful down the road, but will help with certain life decisions, such as kids.

Question 28

Do you have hobbies that are just yours?

While being a couple is great, and it’s even better if they enjoy doing certain hobbies you came into the relationship with, are there particular hobbies that are JUST yours? Things that you can go too when you need alone time, or time to think?

Question 29

Do they have their own hobbies?

While it’s important for you to have your own stuff, they need too as well. It’s not something where you can go off and enjoy time by yourself and your friends, and they just sit home and pine for your return (that is REALLY not healthy).

Question 30

Do you have similar values?

Having similar values is key and will get you through the hard times and hard decisions life will inevitably bring to you; such as moving away from your families. While they don’t all have to be the same, you have to have some sort of touchstone.

Question 31

Can you be away from them for periods of time?

Being away from your partner can be incredibly painful (I know the feeling: you miss them). But it’s healthy to be able to be away from them for periods of a time, because life may have moments where that happens (such as work, or death in your extended family).

Question 32

Can you have a night out without them?

Ok, so perhaps the distance for long periods of time thing isn’t that great, but if you cannot even leave their side for a friends-only-night out, then you, my friend, are going to have a bit of a problem.

Question 33

Do they go out with their friends without you?

It is VERY IMPORTANT (in case you haven't noticed) for you both to have your own individual lives. If you cannot let them go out with their friends without guilting them, then you’re going to have an incredibly frustrated partner.

Question 34

Do they put you first?

Putting you first is a big deal! But let’s take a quick step back: there will be times when you can’t be #1, but you should be, for the most part. For instance, if your mother-in-law doesn’t like you, does he stand up for you anyway?

Question 35

Are you both ready?

Ok, so you’ve just gone through this ENTIRE quiz, and I ask you this NOW?! Yes! Now. I ask now, because a lot of these questions were meant to be fun and thought-provoking, so I want you to take all of your thoughts and now REALLY ask yourself if you’re both ready.

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