Take This Quiz To Find Out If You're Needy
- by Ines Morello
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- in Lifestyle
Relationships are supposed to make you feel good, and the right ones can feel like magic! Meeting that special someone is exciting, fun, and makes you feel alive. If you're single, you still have workplace relationships, friendships, and a family that you can look to for fun, comfort, and commiseration.
But not everything is easy. Different communication styles, patterns, and sets of needs can make things complicated. What seems normal to one person may not be normal for someone else. Things can also get tricky if people in a relationship of any kind have different morals or belief systems. However, society does have a set of boundaries people should generally adhere to so as not to come across as clingy or worse: creepy!
Crossing these lines could wreak havoc on any relationship, but people somehow end up showing their needy or clingy behavior in romantic relationships, and that's what this quiz will focus on. Some get used to needy partners because they crave attention or aren't used to any other way. But hey, even friends may find you needy too! Care to find out if you're exhibiting normal behaviors or crossing the line? Take this quiz and find out!
What do you do when you meet someone new?
Let's say you meet someone and feel a spark. You have a great chat, share a few jokes, and you think they may also be into you. When it's time to go, you find them on social media and decide to take a peek. What's your next step going to be?
What do you do in this scenario?
Imagine you're in the same place as your crush. You've dressed in an amazing outfit complete with a great hairstyle, and you woke up feeling confident. You finally build up the courage to say hi and ask them out, but they politely brush you off. What do you do next?
You're on the first date and s/he mentions wanting a serious relationship. Then you mention...
Imagine you're on a first date. You guys start talking about the normal niceties: their day, their job, and their favorite foods. Suddenly you both start talking about the future. The person across from you talks about their future travel and career plans, and they mention that someday they'd like to find a serious relationship. The next thing you mention is:
You text your new SO something cute, and s/he replies with "k". You...
You've already been out on a few dates. You've started texting a lot of cute emojis and even TALK on the actual phone. Your thumbs are sore from texting all day and then you send your bae a text of something cute. Instead of a full sentence, you get a "k." How do you react?
What do you do in this scenario?
You're on a date and your S.O.'s ex drops by and says hi. Things end quickly and your date shoos them away but doesn't mention anything that could indicate a budding romance. You both continue on as if nothing too strange happened and you put on the façade of a calm exterior. On the inside you're:
How often do you double-text?
Double-texting can be harmless if it's not something you do often. It's when you text something and then get impatient when you don't receive a reply. And hey, sometimes you have a genuinely time-sensitive concern or emergency, so you have to do this. How often do you double-text your S.O.?
You're both watching a movie and you clearly don't like it. S/He notices, and you...
You don't really like the movie you're watching with your S.O.. In fact, you don't even understand it and normally you don't even watch films in this genre, but you like this person so much that you agreed to watch it because it's something they enjoy. Meanwhile, your date/S.O. notices that you're fidgeting and yawning. What do you do next?
You're at a party together. You...
There are other attractive people hanging around this party you're at. Most people don't know you're together and you're not feeling your best. Meanwhile, your S.O. is having a great time and doesn't seem to notice that you're feeling a bit insecure. Plus, others have noticed that they're pretty cool too and have a chat. What do you do?
Your boo is late for a date and didn't send a text or call. You...
You're waiting at the restaurant (or wherever you agreed to meet them) and the server keeps asking you if you're ready to order. As you check your phone, you decide to text and call them to see what's up. When they finally arrive you:
What about your S.O.'s hobbies?
As you're getting to know your S.O., they start sharing their hobbies with you. Some of these include things you're not really into, but they invite you to take part in these but you want to seem supportive. One day they do their thing and you're bored on the inside. How do you handle this situation?
What if your S.O. wants to travel?
Let's say your S.O. decides they want to travel? They may wish to study abroad or go backpacking somewhere thousands of miles away for some time. Whenever they discuss this, their eyes shine brightly and they get very excited! During conversations about this, they never invite you along for the ride. What do you make of this?
You meet your boo's coworkers....
and notice that some of them are very attractive. As you keep hanging out throughout the course of the evening, you realize some of them know your S.O. very well. They know your boo's schedule, favorite foods, and may even know a few things that you haven't yet learned. What do you do?
What do you do when your S.O. wants to hang out with friends?
You've been out on several steady dates and seen each other most days per week for a while now. You suggest hanging out again. You've even made up a fun plan but your boo already has plans to hang out with friends and wants a rain check. How do you react?
How do you react when you meet the family?
Things are already getting serious so your S.O. mentions meeting the family. It's just a normal dinner but you really want to impress the family because you're sooo into them! You pick the perfect outfit, find a nice gift to take, and you decide to prepare. How do you do it?
Your S.O. is supposed to hang out but...
it turns out they're sick. They apologize and tell you they'll lay in bed all day with Netflix until they feel better. Naturally you want to do something to help. They insist that everything will be fine and you don't need to worry. What do you do in this situation?
You're on a date with a third wheel...
...and you're both trying to be inclusive of this friend who was nice enough to tag along on your date. The third wheel looks a lot nicer than you do since you barely had any time to get ready before going out. To make up for your insecurities, what do you do?
You have no plans this weekend...
...and your S.O. has a ton of plans that don't include you. There are some hangouts with friends, family, maybe even a brunch. They're quite excited for this fun-filled weekend. On social media, you see that they're having tons of fun doing these activities. How do you feel about this?
What if your S.O. is wearing a terrible outfit?
Ok, we're not saying you're vain, but sometimes your boo might be wearing something totally unflattering, old, or even dirty! It may be out of character but people are staring and they don't seem to notice. Everything clashes and they finally get the nerve to ask you what you think. What do you do?
What do you do when your boo doesn't want to cuddle?
Imagine this: you've had a terrible day and finally see your S.O. The only thing that could possibly make you feel better is rushing into their arms, but they don't really feel like snuggling up with you. They insist it's got nothing to do with you. What do you do?
Let's say a friend really needs you, but your S.O. calls
Let's say you're seeing someone (or are already in a serious relationship). Imagine that your best friend in the world is having a crisis and you totally agreed to be there. Your S.O. calls and wants to do something that you could easily postpone. What do you do?
What do you do when you have plans with friends but...
...your S.O. wants to hang out instead. You haven't seen them in a few days and have barely texted, and you really miss them. BUT your friends had been planning this for a while and you don't have any other plans in the foreseeable future. What do you choose to do?
Your S.O. sets up a double-date...
...with one of their best friends. You barely know the best friend and this is the first time you meet this other couple. You're nervous about the whole thing and decide to do some preventative social media stalking before you arrive. Exactly how much do you research and how do you use this info on the date?
Your S.O. sees something they've always wanted...
Let's say you're window-shopping at the mall (or online). Your S.O. talks about items they want but can't afford and you encourage them to buy it. They sheepishly say no and start getting annoyed, so you back off eventually and things get back to normal. What do you do next?
How do you react when your S.O. steps way...
Imagine this: your S.O. has invited you out with friends, but you've recently been fighting. Your S.O.'s friends are acting totally normal so far and you're all having fun. Later on, your S.O. decides to step out and go to the bathroom, leaving you alone with the group. What do you do next?
Finally, what do you do when this happens?
Your S.O. gives you a call and sounds serious. When you start talking they mention they need some space. They sound sad about this and you're not ready for this next step. The conversation ends and you both leave despite your objections. In the next coming days, what do you do?
