Is Your Marriage Working Or Is It Time For A Divorce Lawyer?

Relationships are hard enough as it is and adding marriage to the mix can only increase the seriousness of it all.

If you and your spouse get along great, marriage means that you have a committed partner who is willing to ride out the ups and downs with you; they'll take on part of the burden when you're having a rough day, and your individual strengths and weaknesses will eventually balance each other out.

But if you're marriage is currently in the gutter, then you could end up taking on twice the amount of stress as a single person, having to deal with someone who is terrible with money or has commitment issues.

Hopefully this isn't you, but since all marriages will have their rough patches, it's hard to know if you'll ever be able to get things back on track, or if your relationship is ultimately beyond repair.

While divorce could easily be used as a quick fix to problems that could otherwise be worked through, there are certainly some couples that were never meant to be. If you're young and childless, then the idea of cutting your losses might not be such a bad idea. But if you've just started a family and you're still adjusting to the stress of being a parent, then it may just mean you have to power through.

So let's see if there's a divorce in your foreseeable future.

Question 1

How did you meet?

Some relationships are doomed from the start. For instance, if you were friends for years before you began dating, then you have a solid foundation of common interests to always fall back upon. But if it started as a one night stand, you may not have been built to last.

Question 2

How long did you date before marriage?

The beginning of a relationship is always exciting. You’re learning new things about each other and constantly sharing new experiences. But this will eventually wear off, and it’s important to go through some ups and downs before tying the knot.

Question 3

What’s the age difference?

We’re not saying that couples with crazy age differences can’t last, but it certainly doesn’t help your chances. People go through different stages of their lives at similar times, and the further you are apart, the better the chance that you’ll be out of sync.

Question 4

How long did the engagement last?

People can really get caught up in the honeymoon phase of their relationship, which could result in a speedy proposal and a rushed marriage. If this was you, then you may be suddenly realized that you should have taken things at a much more casual pace while dating.

Question 5

How old were you when you tied the knot?

These days, people are waiting longer and longer to get married, which definitely isn’t a bad thing. In fact, 60 percent of marriages that occur before the age of 25 end in divorce — largely because your personality is still going through dramatic changes during these years.

Question 6

When’s the last time you’ve done it?

Another big reason that couples call it quits is that the romance just seems to disappear. While this came easily at the start of your relationship, intimacy eventually takes work, which is something young couples often can’t wrap their heads around.

Question 7

Would you be ok with your spouse going through your text messages?

Even someone who’s married should have a reasonable right to their privacy. But this is hopefully something that your partner would understand. And there’s a big difference between venting via text messages to your friends and reaching out to an old flame behind your spouse’s back.

Question 8

Do your friends like them?

If you have a solid group of friends who have always had your back in the past, they should be your first source of input when it comes to your spouse. If they have valid reasons for hating your partner, then it may be time to throw in the towel.

Question 9

Do you have kids?

Divorce before children can make things a lot easier. It can mean a nice clean break with no need to see each other again, giving each person a fresh start. But things get far more complicated with children, meaning that you’ll need to think much harder before considering a divorce.

Question 10

How long do your arguments usually last for?

Everyone argues. This is a part of any relationship, whether it be romantic or otherwise. But what is important is whether your arguments are productive. If they’re simply screaming matches that never seem to end, you guys are having a serious breakdown in communication.

Question 11

Are you constantly wondering what your exes are up to?

Believe it or not, Facebook is playing a huge role in the modern-day divorces. While people used to never see their exes after breaking up or moving away from home, they can now find them with a click of the mouse — making it far easier to reconnect.

Question 12

Do you fantasize about leaving your entire life behind and starting from scratch?

Your job. Your friends. You spouse. Do you ever imagine just hopping in the car and speeding off to a new life? We’ve probably all wondered about this a time or two, but seriously considering it is another matter entirely.

Question 13

Do you get along with their family?

Most people aren’t crazy about their in-laws. But there’s a big difference between being mildly annoyed with your spouse’s parents, and not even being able to hang out in the same room as them. But before you judge too harshly, consider your own annoying family that they have to tolerate.

Question 14

Are you in serious debt?

While infidelity may seem like the number one cause of divorce, finical strife is often cited as a huge contributing factor as to why couples split. Not having your finances in order can cause a lot of stress on the relationships, especially when one person is way better with money.

Question 15

Do you still laugh at each other’s jokes?

You used to think everything was endearing about your spouse. Their snoring. Their beat-up car. Their corny puns. But now, all of it drives you crazy. While there’s nothing wrong with telling your partner what annoys you, you may ultimately find that you’ve become cranky regardless of what they’re doing.

Question 16

When’s the last time you held hands?

Remember when just holding hands used to give your butterflies? But chances are, the longer you’ve been together, the less you actually do it. That’s why when you see a super old couple still holding hands it seems like the most romantic thing in the world.

Question 17

How often do you go on dates?

Wait — you’re supposed to still go on dates once you’re married? Well, if you have any interest in keeping the romance alive than you definitely should definitely keep doing things that are romantic — whether that means a nice meal out or surprising each other with random gifts.

Question 18

What do you usually argue about?

As we’ve already said, arguing is inevitable. but what you actually argue about can say a lot about the quality of your relationship. So do you have one thing that you simply can’t agree upon, or are arguments usually based on what you’re talking about/ doing at the time?

Question 19

Are you having an affair?

If you’re indeed having an affair, and you have interest at all in saving your marriage, then you should definitely stop cheating on your spouse stat. Before you fix your relationship, you have to fix yourself. And that starts with you no longer looking elsewhere for satisfaction.

Question 20

What about your spouse?

Chances are, your partner probably wouldn’t be forthcoming about their affair. So otherwise, you may need a third party to tell you if you’re just being paranoid or if you have a real reason to be suspicious that spouse may be cheating on you.

Question 21

Would you go to marriage counseling?

Any marriage that lasts a significant amount of time is going to have some serious ups and downs. But those that last are clearly willing to admit their problems and work through them. So would you be willing to go to couples counseling if your marriage was in shambles?

Question 22

Are you both able to admit when you’re wrong?

Simple disagreements will turn into full-blown arguments if neither of you are able to admit when you’re wrong. even if your spouse is a bit stubborn, being the bigger man (or woman) during one disagreement may make them more likely to admit their own faults the next time around.

Question 23

Do your friends constantly tell you it’s over?

Unless you have the worst group of friend imaginable, then you should definitely take their advice if they’re constantly telling you your marriage is over. We’re not always the most honest judge of yourselves, so hearing out an impartial judge could be your best hope.

Question 24

What do you dislike most about your partner?

If you live with someone long enough they will inevitably begin to wear on you. It could be something trivial, like how loud they chew or their dirty dishes. But if it’s something big that irks you — like their personality — then it may mean the end is near.

Question 25

Do they still turn you on?

Once you’re both settled down, you may find that one or both of you is getting a little lazy in the looks department. Married couples often don’t feel like they have to impress their spouse anymore, but this laziness could begin to impact other parts of your marriage as well.

Question 26

Have you given up on buying each other presents?

Remember when you couldn’t wait to exchange gifts on Valentine’s Day, or Christmas, or your anniversary. But gifts can be expensive, and maybe you’ve already gotten them everything they’ve ever asked for. But this isn’t when you should give up, but actually get creative.

Question 27

Do you have someone else as your emergency contact?

It’s a big moment when you switch your emergency contact from your parents to your partner. So if you’d rather have the hospital call your best friend or your boss when you get in a car accident, rather than your spouse, this could be a serious red flag.

Question 28

Do you share similar interests?

Sometimes the only thing you need to bring back a little spark back is to find a new show to watch together or a concert to look forward to. But if you have zero shared interests, then you probably shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place.

Question 29

Do you exercise together?

They say that couples that work out together stay together. While that’s definitely an oversimplification, resisting the urge to sit on the couch and instead complete a grueling workout together definitely shows that you’re both willing to put in the work, whether that be at the gym or elsewhere.

Question 30

Do you work late just so you don’t have to go home?

If your job is better than relaxing at home with your spouse, then you either have the greatest job in the world or a marriage that is a total mess. So which one is it? Or are you simply getting in some overtime to go on an amazing vacation together?

Question 31

Do you have more fun hanging out with friends?

It’s important to maintain a sense of individuality in your marriage and make time to hang out with friends. But if hanging out with your friends is all you ever look forward to, then it may mean you need to put some of that effort back into your marriage.

Question 32

Have you broken things off before?

If your relationship went back and forth a half dozen times before you were married, then you were sadly mistaken that marriage was going to solely solve this problem. While that doesn’t mean things are a total wash, it does mean you have a lot of work ahead of you.

Question 33

Do you constantly snoop through their things?

Not only could this mean that you think your partner is up to no good, but it also represents a total disrespect of privacy within the relationship. While married couples should have few secrets from one another, that doesn’t mean that you both shouldn’t maintain a sense of individuality.

Question 34

Do you stay married just because you’re afraid of being alone?

Sadly, this is why some many people end up having affairs. They know that their marriage is in shambles, but they’re afraid of calling it quits because they don’t want to go back to living alone. But it’s ultimately better to have a clean break before firing up something new.

Question 35

What’s more important to you?

This question is less about evaluating if you and your spouse share the same interest and is more about where you put your priorities in general. So if you’re obsessed with your job and take little time to work on your marriage, then it’s you that needs to reprioritize things.

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