Is It Love Or Lust? Take The 60 Second Test To See How You Really Feel!
- by Kaline Forrester
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At some point in life, we have all wondered whether we are in lust or in love. The very lucky among us have maybe only wondered this a few times, as they say when you are in love, "you just know". When you are truly in love, it is not a question- or so they say. But we all know that life is rarely that simple (wouldn't that be nice?). So for the vast majority of us, there will come a time when we need a quiz such as this to clue us in to how we really feel. Is it lust, or is it love?
More often than not, people find themselves questioning if they are in lust or in love in the earlier stages of a relationship, during the time when you are in the honeymoon phase, in the process of falling in love, but maybe not quite there yet. It is normal to be confused. After all, with the excitement of a new relationship and the prospect of having found The One, emotions are all over the place. So is it just the typical honeymoon phase all couples go through, or is it more than that?
Wonder no more! Take this super-quick quiz and you will know for sure what your heart is trying to tell you! Good luck!
How long have you been together?
The length of your relationship may or may not play a key role in determining whether you two are in lust or in love. Obviously, if you have been together for awhile, you have likely moved on to deeper feelings than just the physical. Although every love has to start somewhere, so you never know...
How did you meet?
These days, more and more people are meeting their future spouses online. And after all, why not utilize the worldwide web when every one is on it for most of the day, anyway? It remains to be seen the statistics of relationships that begin this way. If online dating is not for you, there is still the good, old-fashioned way to meet people, too.
What did you do the first time you hung out alone?
There are a million things to do with a person the first time you hang out with them one-on-one. But if you really think about it, most of those things can be broken down into two categories: hooking up, or actually hanging out. Sometimes, people do both. But which was it more of for you?
Have you said "I love you yet?"
Clearly, if you have both expressed your love with those big three words, you probably don't have to do too much wondering about if you are in lust or in love. If, however, neither of you has said it yet, things are likely a bit more confusing right now.
How soon did you do the deed?
Having sex is a normal part of any healthy adult relationship, and it is a huge part of it, as well. Some couples choose to hook up right away, while some even wait until marriage, although this seems to be becoming less and less common. How soon did you and your significant other do the deed?
What attracts you most to your partner?
As they say, beauty fades. Every single one of us will one day be wrinkly, old, and ugly. So while being physically attracted to your partner is important (and undoubtedly more fun than if you were not), it is probably more important to be on the same level emotionally, intellectually, and mentally.
How do you picture your relationship in five years?
Depending on your age, five years could seem like a really long time from now, or it could seem like it will go by super fast. The older we get, the faster time goes by, it seems. But picture life with your partner for a minute, five years down the road. What does life with him or her look like?
What are your ages?
Not all relationships with a huge age gap are doomed to fail, just like not all relationships with two people of a similar age are guaranteed to work out. But in terms of love and lust, age gap could be a red flag.
Is one of you out of the other's league?
Being "out of his/her league", so to speak, is a phrase that describes a person who is not thought of as being on the same level as their significant other. For the most part, this is referring to how someone looks physically. But it could also go for things like careers, and other aspects of life.
What type of person do you usually go for?
Like it or not, most of us have a "type" we are known for going after- whether that means dating, hooking up with, or simply being attracted to. So think back to your dating history, and decide which type you typically tend to go for.
Is this person your type or not?
You just finished answering a question about what type of person you generally seek out for a romantic relationship. Now think of the person you are taking this quiz about to find out if you are in love or lust with them. Are they the type of person you are known for being with?
What do you get them for their birthday?
Say it is your significant other's birthday. Obviously, the perfect gift is essential, especially if the relationship is somewhat new and you want to show them that you truly care for them. Of the following gifts, which would be closest to your style of gift-giving for your love?
Which famous couple are you two most like?
Hollywood is full of excellent examples of what not to do in a relationship, and there are also a surprising number of successful famous relationships that have managed to survive the pressure. Choose one of the following couples that is most similar to you and your BAE.
How much time do you spend together?
How often a couple sees one another depends a lot on how far into the relationship you are. Obviously, if you have just begun dating, you will not see each other as much as if you are to the point of cohabitation. But the amount of time you spend together can also help us to know if you are in lust or in love.
How often do you call, text, or FaceTime?
Even if you are both super busy, technology more than enables us to keep in touch pretty much 24/7, barring any kind of work commitment. Even while driving, the hands-free devices make it safe to talk on the road! Between texting, video calling, and regular old telephone calls, couples in lust will probably be in touch all the livelong day!
How would you classify your text messages to each other?
When you are in a relationship of any kind (familial, friendship, romantic, etc.), text messages have become a necessary part of every day life. It is much easier to send a text than call every time you need to remind your partner to pick up something from the store or to remind them to walk the dog. But other than the day-to-day stuff, what are your texts like?
Do you dress up for him/her?
How much effort a man or woman puts into their wardrobe/hair/makeup/overall look when they see their significant other can be indicative of where they are in their relationship. Someone in lust will more likely want to make sure he/she looks perfect for their partner than someone who is truly in love, although there are exceptions to every rule.
Be honest: how is your sex life?
If any one question will clarify whether you are in love or in lust, it could be this question right here. It is so simple, yet so telling. When it comes to your life in the bedroom, just how hot is it? Are you in the honeymoon phase, all over each other all the time, has the spark come and gone, or is it something else, entirely?
What is your favorite thing to do together?
It doesn't matter your age, race, gender, or anything else- every couple has their own unique favorite ways to spend time together as a twosome. From being couch potatoes binging the latest season of GOT, to wining and dining with friends, to physical activities like sports or bedroom action, there are plenty of fun things to do as a couple. What is your favorite?
How do your friends feel about your relationship?
Our friends are often the best judges of character when it comes to who we date, or hook up with, or marry. This is because unlike our family members, they are usually the same age as us and know us better than our parents or siblings. So your friends' opinions of your partner could have a huge bearing on your relationship.
What is your sign?
There is something to be said for the signs of the Zodiac, and in fact, some people base their lives and decisions around their individual signs. People use their signs to predict their futures, to understand themselves better in all aspects of their lives, and to understand others, as well. When it comes to love and lust, your sign is also helpful to know.
Are your feelings stronger than your partner's?
It is not uncommon for one person in a relationship to have stronger feelings than the other, especially early on. Since you do not know if you are in love or in lust, we assume that your relationship is in the early stages. It is often said that the person who cares more is at a disadvantage of some sort, so how does this fit into your relationship?
How do you feel when you look at your partner?
It would be an ideal world if, every time we looked at our significant other, we melted and felt butterflies and then we lived happily ever after. But this is the reality for very few people. Even if you are one of the lucky ones who is part of a couple that remains hot for each other until you're gray and old, life is not perfect. But when you do look at your guy/girl, how do your feel?
Describe going to a movie with your partner.
If you are in lust, the movie theater is the perfect place to go on a date. The semi-privacy that the darkness provides is both romantic and adventurous- if you want to go there. Kissing, holding hands, and even more (if you dare) are possible in a dark movie theater. Or maybe that is not your thing. Whatever the case, it will be useful in determining whether you are in love or in lust.
What is your level of PDA?
PDA stands for Public Display of Affection, and while some couples are cool with it, others avoid it at all costs. Holding hands is one thing, but some people take it to the extreme by kissing, making out, or going even further in plain view of other people. When it comes to PDA in your relationship, how hot and heavy are you in public?
Why is your partner with you?
If you had to pick a reason, why do you think your partner is with you? There is probably more than one reason, and it is likely a combination of things that brought you two together in the first place. Most people will cite personality reasons, but let's be completely honest. Why is he or she with you?
How does your partner handle your being upset?
Regardless of what you are upset about (everything from hormones to your favorite sports team losing to problems at work, and everything in between), it is nice to know you can rely on your other half to comfort you- no matter what that looks like. In your relationship, what DOES that look like? How does he or she comfort you when you need it most?
After you are intimate, what do you do?
Sometimes, the best part of being intimate with someone you love (or think you love) happens after the fact, just cuddling, talking, or sleeping in the pleasant daydream of satisfied lovers. This is true not just for girls, but guys, too. Of course, maybe you are still at the stage of your relationship when all you want to do is each other- all the time.
Intimacy with my partner feels like...
It is only natural that over time, being an intimate with the same person over and over again will become at least somewhat predictable. And this is not necessarily a bad thing. But in the earliest stages of a relationship, things are spicier in the bedroom. Hopefully they stay that way as long as possible. How does intimacy feel with your partner right now?
How do you sleep together (literally)?
Sleeping together does not just mean having sex, but actually, literally falling asleep together and staying that way all night long. It is a different kind of intimacy, one that most new couples fully appreciate and look forward to. So what is your sleeping style when you get to spend the whole night together?
Compare your relationship to a movie.
We could only be so lucky to experience a relationship like any of the three answer options for this question. All kids (well, at least all little girls) grow up dreaming of being a Disney princess and finding that kind of love. As far as when we become adults, we are pretty sure men and women alike would love to have a sex life the likes of Christian and Anastasia of 50 Shades of Grey. And everyone would love to live a rom-com!
When your partner compliments you, most of the compliments are about...
Everyone loves a compliment, and depending on who you are, there may be a whole lot to compliment you about! The most common compliments given between romantic partners include about looks, how fun you are, kindness, how they are proud of you for this or that, etc. What does your partner compliment you the most on?
Describe your relationship in one word.
Obviously, no relationship on Earth could be summed up in just one word; humans (and their relationships with one another) are far more complex than that. But for the sake of this quiz, which of the following words BEST describes your current relationship, if you had to choose only one?
Do you ever talk about your future as a couple?
It goes without saying that people who are truly in love will talk about their future as a couple. Whether you are married and talking about having kids down the line, or you just recently started dating and are talking about attending an upcoming wedding together, if you are talking about the future at all, it bodes well for the fact that you are probably in love and not lust.
What does your gut say?
Be honest; there is a reason you are taking this quiz. If you are worried about being in love or in lust at all, it must mean that you care a great deal about your significant other, and you are probably wondering if they feel the same way. Trust your gut instinct on this one. You are the best judge of your own life and feelings, so if you had to say, are you in lust or are you in love?
