If You Don’t Get 100% On This Quiz, Do NOT Get Married
- by Danielle Lasher
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For couples that have been dating for a while, marriage always crosses the mind—whether the minds of the couple or the minds of all of their friends. Getting married is a huge decision for a person and their significant other, no matter how long they've been together.
For many people, marriage is a big and important commitment in which a couple vows to stick by their lover’s side for the rest of their life. Unfortunately, with divorce rates steadily rising, marriage isn't the same romantic ideal that everyone used to strive for anymore. But marriage is still a wonderful thing for a couple to aspire to do. So, before getting engaged or even thinking about getting engaged, there are quite a few things a couple should consider before taking their relationship to the next level.
How well does a person feel like he or she knows his or her partner? Does a future with this person seem like a great thing? There are so many things to think about! Many of these things can be sorted out by long talks with one’s partner. The following is a list of 25 questions that can help people evaluate if their significant other is really the one for them.
What are your and your partner's thoughts on children?
One of the biggest things that come up between couples when they discuss marriage is each individual's views on children—including how to raise them. Often, a person can figure out his or her partner’s preferences, but it's always good to double check with your partner—so one knows what he or she will be getting into. Children can add a lot of joy and work into a couple’s lives, so one should know if the significant other is willing to handle it or not. What are your thoughts on children?
Keeping the lines of communication open is very important for a healthy relationship. Just how often are you two linking up?
Every couple is bound to spend some significant time apart eventually, for work or family or whatever. In fact, spending time apart is one good way to know if one’s feelings for a partner are truly sincere. In a lot of healthy relationships, the couple will stay in contact when they're away. But is there ever too much or too little contact between the couple? What happens in your relationship when you spend a significant amount of time apart? Just how often are you two linking up?
Have you or would you ever cheat on your partner (physically or emotionally)?
Loyalty is very important in every relationship one has, but it's especially important in a romantic relationship. People can cheat both physically and emotionally on their partner. Sometimes people cheat emotionally without even realizing it. Once a person cheats on a partner, the person who was cheated on will have a hard time trusting the significant other ever again. Trust is a key building block in any romantic relationship. Have you or would you ever cheat on your partner (physically or emotionally)?
Do you or your significant other flirt with other people?
Sometimes, flirting is the easiest way to get what you want when you want it. It's great because it works so well on your significant other, but it also works on other people, too—and it's all harmless and fun, right? Plus, it's a real confidence booster when one feels a little down or needs some attention. But flirting with other people in front of your partner can have some big consequences. Do you or your significant other flirt with other people?
How much do you and your bae have in common?
Some people think that they should be with someone who's exactly the same as they are. While it's a fact that the more time people spend together, the more similar they become, people don't generally start out as exactly the same in a relationship. Other people believe that opposites attract. While that may be the case in some relationships, people in long-term relationships tend not to be total opposites. How much do you and your bae have in common?
Respect in a marital relationship is very important. Your significant other…
No matter what, your partner should have the utmost respect for you. Your partner supposedly loves you more than anyone. One way to tell how your partner will respect you in marriage is to observe how they treat his or her own parents. Weird, right? But it's true. As your significant other’s parents are one of the biggest influences in his or her life, the way your partner treats his or her parents can tell a lot. Respect in a marital relationship is very important. So, your significant other…
How much alone time do you need in your relationship?
How much time should you be spending with your significant other if you're serious? While that question absolutely differs from relationship to relationship, time spent with one’s partner is a necessity if both partners want the relationship to work out. But most people enjoy their alone time as well. Maybe some time to read a book or go out with friends without your significant other might be nice. But maybe, one is just so tight with the partner that they do literally everything together. How much alone time do you need in your relationship?
Do you feel like your best self when you're with your bae?
If one’s significant other really loves him or her, that partner will want what's best for the other. A good relationship will thrive on mutual respect and encouragement. A person should enjoy spending time with the partner because he or she feels like a million bucks around the partner. Significant others should push each other in life to improve their talents and to reach for opportunities. One’s significant other should make the other want to be a better person. Do you feel like your best self when you're with your bae?
When you think of your wedding day, how do you feel?
Some people are more in a marriage for the actual wedding and parties that precede and follow it than the actual marriage. While wedding festivities are fun and take a lot of work, a marriage should be just as much fun even if it takes more work. If a couple considers marriage, they should consider the marriage for the right reasons. They should also make sure they're on the same page with each other when it comes to a wedding vs. marriage. When you think of your wedding day, you feel…
While your partner may be absolutely perfect for you, do you think your partner is actually perfect in every way?
Some people worship the ground their partner walks on. While one should adore a partner completely if they're considering marrying him or her, there's a fine line between adoration and obsession. While one may feel like a significant other is the center of one's universe, the significant other shouldn't actually be. Keep in mind that no one's perfect. While your partner may be absolutely perfect for you, do you think your partner is actually perfect in every way?
If your partner leaves socks on the floor, you would…
Living together is a huge step a lot of couples make. However, some couples don't begin living together until they're married. Either way, a person can get some sense of a partner’s habits before they get married. When it comes down to it, different cleaning habits can be a big spot of contention in some relationships. Sometimes, though, picking a fight over cleanliness isn't always worth it. If your partner leaves socks on the floor, you would…
How can you be sure your significant other is the one you want to be with for the rest of your life?
Whether a person believes in “the one” or not, marriage takes work. Often, in relationships, people subconsciously make up silly excuses as to why their relationship should or shouldn't work out. One thing a person can be sure of is that if the significant other works just as hard as to make the relationship thrive, that's the type of person to consider marrying. How can you be sure your significant other is the one you want to be with for the rest of your life?
When it comes to religion, you and your partner...
These days, religion can be a very controversial topic. Whether you're religious or not, it's often easier if both parties in a romantic relationship have the same beliefs. Religion often shapes a person’s moral code, and if one’s moral code differs from the partner’s, the couple may run into some issues later in life. Furthermore, if a couple wants children in their future, it tends to be easier if the couple agrees on how to treat religion for their children. You and your partner…
How much do you trust your significant other?
Trust is likely the most important basis of any romantic relationship. Without trust, doubts, fears, and insecurities rise. A person should feel like he or she can trust a partner with anything and everything (including each other’s cell phones) if they're considering marriage—or even if they've just been together for a long time. But sometimes, for whatever reason, people find it really hard to trust one another in a relationship for a variety of reasons. How much do you trust your significant other?
How do you keep the love alive, even as you grow old together?
Some couples stay married for decades, while other couples divorce after only a few years. A successful marriage is not a cakewalk. It takes a lot of time, patience, work and love for a marriage to thrive. Often, people will interview old couples asking how they kept their happy marriage “alive.” Each couple answers a little bit differently, but there's one message that continues to resonate. How do you keep the love alive, even as you grow old together?
How do you and your significant other feel about finances?
Financial problems are often one of the biggest triggers of arguments in a marital relationship. Before considering getting married, a couple should know what they'll be getting into financially. Couples should discuss finances in depth so they know they're on the same wavelength before they get married. Who will do the taxes? Who will be the breadwinner… or will both members of the relationship be the breadwinners? How do you and your significant other feel about finances in your relationship?
Do you feel comfortable in your own skin without your significant other?
Before getting into a relationship, it's important to consider being comfortable in one’s own skin first. If a person is confident with himself or herself, that person is more likely to be confident in the relationship. It's especially important that both people in a relationship feel that way about themselves. If a person can thrive independently, it makes it easier to thrive in a long-term relationship or marriage. Do you feel comfortable in your own skin without your significant other?
When you're angry with your significant other, you…
Every couple gets into a fight occasionally—it's inevitable. If a person doesn't ever have any contention with the partner, he or she might be doing something wrong. It's totally normal to fight, but what's significant is the amount of time spent fighting and how the couple resolves the argument. Ideally, a couple doesn't want to fight very much. Furthermore, having good resolutions in a relationship is very important. When you're angry with your significant other, you…
So, is your significant other the first person you tell things to?
It's good to have friends and family that a person is close to other than the significant other. It's good to have lots of different people to talk to. But, your significant other, if you're seriously considering marriage, should be your number one every time. Taking your problems to your partner before taking them to someone else will definitely help a couple grow closer together. So, is your significant other the first person you run to tell things to?
So, who should do the chores at home?
The home is a place where a couple will spend a lot of their time together. Sometimes, contention can arise based on who's doing the cleaning, who's doing the cooking, and so on. Hopefully, a couple will have a sense of who will do what as they're dating. If not, it's definitely something a couple should talk about before they take their relationship to the next level. In an ideal world, both members contribute, but we understand that this doesn't always work for some relationships. So, who should do the chores at home?
So, when you text your partner with big personal news, like a promotion, your partner…
A person’s significant other should be one's biggest cheerleader ever. A partner should be rooting for you, just like you root for your partner. Happy couples want their partners to succeed. Often, in a good relationship, when a person tells the partner big news, the partner may be more excited and proud than the teller of the big news. That's what a couple should strive for if they're considering marriage. So, when you text your partner with big personal news, like a promotion, your partner…
Have you and your partner met each other’s family?
Whether your significant other is close to his or her family or not, the family played a big role in shaping the person you fell in love with. Meeting each other’s families is both helpful and important because it can help a person understand the significant other better. Furthermore, in many cases, a person will be dealing with the partner’s family for the rest of his or her life, so it's good to know whether or not there's chemistry with the family. Have you and your partner met each other’s family?
How are you and your significant other’s finances?
Like said earlier, money problems lead to many arguments in marriage. Money problems are one of the top reasons couples argue. It's important to know what kind of spender a partner is before talking about marriage. As many people are in debt these days with college loans and other spendings, having an idea about how much or how little debt one’s partner is in is a good idea. It could affect a lot of things in a couple’s future. How are you and your significant other’s finances?
Do you and your significant other like each other’s friends?
A person’s friends should also play a big role in whom a person dates. First of all, a person’s partner should be that person's closest friend. The partner should be a person’s number one confidant. Furthermore, a person shouldn't be forced to be distanced from one's friends because of the partner. A couple should have mutual friends and like each other’s friends as well. Like family, a person’s friends can tell others a lot about one's character. Do you and your significant other like each other’s friends?
Do you ever think about your old flames?
Most people tend to have dated a handful of people before they meet the one they want to spend the rest of their life with. While that's totally normal, it's important to be present in your current relationship. Be wary of exes who “want to still be friends” while one is in a relationship with someone else. In fact, it's better to avoid thinking about old flames altogether if one wants to focus on a current relationship. Do you ever think about your old flames?