Can We Handle You At Your Worst? How Emotional Are You?
- by Dylan Dembrow
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You’ve spent your entire childhood wanting to grow up, but you’re suddenly realizing that the older you get, the more stressful life is becoming. As soon as you move out of the house, you have to start worrying about everything from paying the rent to what you’re going to eat for dinner, and the longer you spend out on your own, the more likely you are to face financial strife.
On top of that, there's a whole new spectrum of personal relationships that you'll have to navigate yourself through. Things tend to get a whole lot more serious once you get into your 20s, and for many, it’s a scary thought to realize that the person you’re currently dating could be the one you end up spending the rest of your life with.
So with all of this extra baggage on your shoulders, you better find a way to cope with it that works for you. And fast. Having trustworthy friends and family by your side should be a number one priority, but it’s not a bad idea to have a few techniques that you can do on your own to calm your emotions — like exercising or meditation.
So let’s run some stressful situations by you and see if we could handle you at your worst.
Which one of these upsets you more?
No one said life is fair. And if they did, then they’re a bold-faced liar. Life is full of ups-and-downs, and if you want to live a happy life, you need to learn to roll with the punches and not let everything upset you so easily.
What would you do if you found out your partner was cheating on you?
There’s nothing worse than stumbling upon some concrete proof that your partner is being unfaithful. The news will inevitably send your world spiraling out of control, but it’s best to try and regain your sense before you do something that can’t be recovered from.
When was the last time you cried?
Sometimes a good cry is all you need to get over a bad day or a messy argument. But if you find yourself weeping on a weekly basis, it may be time to put your emotions in check with a visit to the therapist.
What did you cry over?
Crying every other day may be a sign that you’re constantly over emotional, or it could just mean you’re going through a rough patch. Losing a loved one or going through a messy breakup certainly warrants a lot of tear-filled nights, which is all part of the grieving process.
How do you deal with a broken heart?
Whether you’re over emotional or not, having your heart broken is one of the worst feelings that you can ever experience, especially if it’s the first time it’s ever happened to you. But do you let the pain permanently keep you down? Or do you force yourself to push through?
What brings you the most joy?
The longer you live, the more you begin to realize that life is a journey and that happiness is always a fleeting emotion. That’s why it’s important to find things that can regularly bring you joy, and hopefully, those things aren’t also self-destructive.
What do you do when you’re anxious?
While anxiety may seem like no big deal to some people, for others, it is the number one antagonist of their lives — which dictates everything from their career path to the quality of their relationships. In which case, you’ll need to develop some reliable coping strategies.
How do you deal with a bully?
Whether it be the schoolyard during recess or the break room during lunch, bullies are everywhere. In this case, we’ll assume that you’re not the one that’s putting other people down, and instead, we'll ask what is your go-to strategy when dealing with a bully?
An awkward silence hits during a first date, what do you bring up?
A first date is definitely not the place that you want to bring a lot of emotional baggage. This is a chance for two people to start getting to know each other at a very base level, not an open opportunity for you to vent about your ex.
Do you often fantasize about winning make-believe arguments?
It’s always a bummer when you finally think of the perfect comeback line a few hours after the argument has already ended. But you’re better off stashing it away for next time rather than engaging in another hour-long debate inside your own head.
How do you deal with stress?
Certain days, stress can feel inescapable. It can stem out of our relationships, our jobs, even our own bodies. And while some things really are worth stressing over, other problems are simply our anxious minds playing tricks on us. So how do you deal with it?
What would you do if your found out your friends made plans without you?
You’re chilling at home looking for something to do when all of a sudden you check your Snap stories and discover that our friends are doing something fun without ever extending you an invitation. Do you take this as a personal slight, or simply let it slide?
Have you ever tried to pit your friends against each other?
A sure-fire way to know that you’re emotionally unstable is if you've ever pitted your friends against each other in an attempt to make yourself the morally superior one. While this may work for a time, the truth will eventually come out and make you look a thousand times worse.
How many people have told you to go to therapy?
Are you constantly drowning people with your personal problems only to have them tell you that it’s time to visit the shrink? While we’re not always the best judges of ourselves, if the people closest to you are telling you to get a grip, you should probably listen.
Why do most of your relationships end?
If you constantly find yourself going through one messy break up after the next, it may be tempting to say to yourself that it’s always the other person’s fault. And why they may indeed be the one that’s sabotaging the relationships, you’re ultimately the one that’s picking your partners.
How do you feel about gossiping?
If you’re stuck at the same boring job day-in and day-out, you may find that the only way to spice things up around the office is to gossip about your co-workers behind their back. While this is far from an abnormal occurrence, it doesn’t mean that it’s totally harmless.
Have you ever made a dramatic scene at your workplace?
With most jobs running around 40 hours a week, and be hard to keep your personal life totally separate from the workplace. But there’s a big difference between retreating to the bathroom stall to cry and making an emotional scene in front of all your co-workers.
What do you do when you’re feeling depressed?
Even if you’ve never been clinically depressed, everyone is prone to getting a case of the blues. This could be a result of the seasons or because of relationship problems, but so long as it's not a chemical imbalance, you could be proactive about snapping yourself out of it.
Have you ever had a panic attack?
Having moderate anxiety about stressful situations — like giving a wedding speech or going in for a job interview — is a fairly common occurrence. But if you find yourself routinely freaking out about nothing at all, your emotions may indeed be ruling your life.
Do you rely on substances to moderate your emotions?
Whether it be coffee, wine, chocolate cake, or something a little bit stronger, no one can deny that these substances can make you feel better… for a time at least. But relying on uppers or downers to moderate your mood will inevitably backfire after a time.
What do you do when you’re having a bad day?
When you’re in the midst of a truly bad day, it feels as though the rest of your life will continue to be just as miserable. So if only you could calm down and remind yourself that that’s not the case, you’re less likely to make any rash decisions.
How often do you fake sick to get out of an obligation?
Everybody’s faked sick at least once to get out of going to school. And when you grow up, it’s even easier to use this excuse since you don’t have to convince your parents that you’re actually sick. But doing it too much might mean that you get overwhelmed too easily.
What are you like during a job interview?
They say that people rank public speaking higher than their fear of death, and while you should be able to avoid most forms of this in your adult life, any type of job usually requires you to sit in an interview and talk openly about yourself and your job experience.
Have you ever started a rumor that wasn’t true?
It’s one thing to share info with someone that you know is true, but it’s another thing entirely to start a rumor about someone that you’ve pulled out of thin air. So have you ever been the source of such a lie?
Are you more left-brained or right-brained?
They say that left-brained people are more logical and analytical --they’re often better and math and science and aren’t prone to making impulsive decisions. Meanwhile, right-brained people are more likely to rely on emotion and gut instinct… making them inevitably more emotionally.
How long do you usually hold grudges for?
When you get into an argument with your significant other or find out that your friends planned a hang out without you, are you cool with letting it slide so everything can go back to normal? Or are you one of those people that never forgets?
Do you keep a list of all the people who have wronged you?
Revenge is a great incentive when you’re watching an action flick or a TV series. But in real life, is it really a good idea to constantly carry this hatred around with you? It may be motivating at first, but after a while, it may become unnecessary baggage.
How do you feel about your family?
It’s tough when you don’t automatically get along with your family. If you still live at home, this could mean you like to spend as much time out of the house as possible. And if you’re already moved out, it could mean that the holidays are filled with arguments.
Do people often look to you for advice?
A good way to know if you’re not too over emotional is if a lot of people end up looking to you for insight. People that are far more logical and less likely to over react undoubtedly give the best advice. So is this you?
Would you consider yourself more book smart or street smart?
Being either book smart or street smart can have its advantages. While book smart people may go on to have a successful desk job that requires them to be detail oriented, they may crack under the pressure of certain social situations unlike someone you is street smart.
Which character from Family Guy do you like the most?
For a show that’s been on as long as Family Guy, it’s be near impossible for you to have not seen at least a few episodes of the series by this point. And you probably noticed that each member of the Griffin family is distinctly different. So who do you like the best?
When you’re feeling down, would you rather watch a happy or a sad movie?
Why anyone would want to watch a heartbreaking movie when they’re down in the dumps is beyond us, especially when you could pop in any hilarious comedy and be feeling better in a matter of minutes. But maybe you’re one of those people that likes to bask in their sorrow.
Have you ever been fired from your job?
While plenty of jobs will let their employees go for financial reasons, if you’ve been fired from multiple jobs without a clear explanation, there’s a good chance that people simply can’t stand working with you, which might be worth wondering about.
What is your worst quality?
If you’re someone who is indeed over-emotional, then there’s a good chance that you’ll have a hard time picking out what your worst quality is. So in that case, just assume that what people have been criticizing you for the most is the thing that you need to work on.
What do you usually do when you hang out with your friends?
Are you the type of person that can truly kick back with your friends and have a good time. Or are you constantly worried that they’re judging you? Or maybe you have to rely on trash-talking other people just to have an enjoyable time.
