Is Your Relationship Too Cute Or Too Much?

At some point in your life (probably your mid to late 20s) you'll suddenly discover that you cannot stand most people. That's why at about the same age most people will end up picking one person that they actually see eye-to-eye with, and they will go on to build a life with each other.

We all love a good romance story. Even guys -- who don't necessarily relish watching movies like The Notebook or Titanic -- will secretly become invested in the character's relationships on their favorite shows, like Game of Thrones and The Walking Dead. And as people are wont to do, we often picture ourselves at the super romantic couple that everyone fawns over and can't get enough of. But sometimes, that couldn't be further from the truth.

Social media has turned many people's relationships into their own personal reality show, where they continue to fill the world in non-stop on the ups and downs of their latest relationship. They'll share "romantic" photos day after day, post long and flowery status to mark every special occasion, and change their relationship status to "It's complicated" after the slightest disagreement.

Hopefully, this isn't you. But it's time to find out for sure: Are you guys too cute or too much?

Question 1

Do you guys have a joint Facebook account?

It’s never a good sign when a couple decides to combine their Facebook pages. The only time this may be acceptable is if you’re a married couple in your 50s or 60s that has no idea of how to use social media, and you’re simply making an account to keep in touch with their kids. Otherwise, this signifies a total loss of self-identity.

Question 2

What about a joint Instagram?

A joint Instagram isn’t quite as cringe-worthy as a shared Facebook page. After all, Instagram isn’t specifically about creating a personal profile to stay connected with your friends, as you can find Instagram accounts for literally anything these days. But for many, a couple that opens an Instagram account together is still a cause for concern.

Question 3

How long have you been together?

No matter the individuals, most relationships go through similar stages, which involve the couple slowly easing into things before becoming full-blown obsessed with each other for about the first year. After that, all the magic about things being brand new will begin to wear off, and while you may still be totally into the relationship, it’s time for you to reconnect with your friends that you’ve been rudely ignoring for the past year.

Question 4

Do you use pet names in public?

There’s nothing more awkward than hanging out with a couple that refuses to call each other by their real names, and instead refers to their S.O. as “pookiebear” or “honey bunches” the entire time you’re around them. While certain pet names are fairly common, it can still become super annoying if they continue to tack these on at the end of every other sentence.

Question 5

What show do you watch together?

Even if you’ve just started dating, it’s only a matter of time before you get a few favorite TV shows that you watch exclusively with your S.O. In fact, it will eventually become unforgivable if you begin to skip ahead in one of these shared shows behind your partner’s back. But which show you end up watching together can say a lot about your relationship in general.

Question 6

You tell your friends detailed stories about your sex life without them even asking.

While hearing about someone’s sex life can be fascinating (especially if you have a few drinks in you), there’s definitely a limit to how much people actually want to know. While everyone likes to share a few juicy details, there are definitely some things about your sex life that should remain unsaid, especially if no one asked for details in the first place.

Question 7

When your friends invite you to hang out, you ask if your S.O. can tag along.

So your friends invite you out to catch a movie and maybe get a bite to eat and a few drinks afterward. So do you look forward to spending some time alone with your friends and catching up, or do you ask if your S.O. can come along? While you’ll inevitably want your partner to meet/hang out with your friends at some point, that doesn’t mean you should always be a packaged deal.

Question 8

You count anniversaries in days, weeks, and months, rather than years?

Understandably, when people first start dating they do mark things in months. After all, the relationship is new and exciting and it’s a big deal to make it six months with someone new. But after you hit a year together, do you still insist on counting things in weeks and months. Did you celebrate your year and a half anniversary? Did you post about it on Facebook? Tell the truth.

Question 9

How many times have you had a professional photographer take your pictures?

These days, people already take so many photos of themselves that the idea of hiring a professional photographer to mark a number of special occasions (outside of a wedding, of course) can seem silly. After all, the quality of smartphone cameras continues to improve, and there might not be that much of a difference between having someone on the sidewalk snap a picture, and hiring someone for a few hundred dollars to do the same.

Question 10

You consider your pet your child.

A lot of people, whether they’re in relationships or not, often consider their pets their children. However, this is usually considered extremely unacceptable to one group of people -- those who have actual children. Don’t get us wrong, getting a pet together is a good step to take if you think you’re actually going to start a family at some point. But that doesn’t mean you have to start throwing it birthday parties and feeding it at the table.

Question 11

You dress your cat/ dog up in matching clothing.

So maybe you don’t go as far as calling your pet your “child,” but you’ve been known to buy your pet some pretty rad outfits, which just so happen to correspond with the clothes that you and your S.O. where around. While this can often be done to great comedic effect, you should hopefully be well aware of when the joke has overstayed its welcome.

Question 12

You never go out drinking unless your S.O. is with you.

Going out drinking with your friends can be a sticky situation, especially if most of your friends are single and looking to hook up with someone on their night out. It’s understandable if your S.O. is concerned about you going out, but it might be an even bigger problem if you two can’t come to some kind of understanding and trust each other to behave themselves when going out without you.

Question 13

When did you first start thinking about marriage?

If you date long enough, it’s inevitable that the topic of marriage is going to come up at some point. And chances are, both of you had been thinking about it before you ended up talking about it together. But when did you start thinking of the possibility? Was it a love at first sight thing? Or did it take some serious time as a couple before you started entertaining the notion?

Question 14

You make inside jokes in front of other people without explaining them.

If you stay together long enough, your S.O. will, without a doubt, become the person you have the most inside jokes with. Even when you’re hanging out with new people it may be hard to not let a few of these jokes slip out. Hopefully, you’re self-aware enough to explain the joke to others and you don’t make your friends feel like you’re secretly making fun of them right in front of their faces.

Question 15

You have petty arguments in front of other people.

Talk about awkward. There are few things worse than hanging out with a couple that will not stop bickering. If you’re that couple, you may not even notice that you’re making everyone else super uncomfortable. But trust us, you are. While having little arguments is part of any relationship -- romantic or otherwise -- doing it in front of other people is a serious turn-off, which may result in no one wanting to hang out with you two when you’re together.

Question 16

You coordinate what you’re going to wear with your S.O.

Dressing your pet up like you for laughs is one thing, but corresponding what you’re going to wear with your S.O. on a daily basis is another. When you get to a certain age, you should be well aware of how you should dress depending on the occasions, and the idea that you have to check with your S.O. to make sure your outfit is acceptable can seem infantile, especially if you’re always trying to match.

Question 17

You kiss passionately in front of other people.

Unless you’re one of those people who is severely disturbed by all forms of P.D.A. (which is another problem unto itself), we can all probably agree that a quick “hi” and “goodbye” kiss between a couple is socially acceptable. But do you find that you and your S.O. are continuously smooching in front of others? If so, you may want to reign it in, as it only serves to make other people uncomfortable around you.

Question 18

What kind of movies do you watch together?

So you’re tired of other people and you decide to kick back and watch a movie together. You open up Netflix and start surfing — a process that can sometimes last as long as the actual movie. So if you’re trying to narrow down your picks, which genre of movie is your usual go-to when watching with your S.O.?

Question 19

How many photos of you and your S.O. kissing are currently posted on social media?

Not that long ago, it was still a bit on the weird side to post a picture of you kissing your S.O. on social media. But with younger generations knowing no other reality, it is becoming more and more commonplace. While one tactful kissing photo is usually fine to mark a special occasion (especially if someone else just happened to capture the moment), a plethora of kissing selfies can become extremely ostentatious.

Question 20

You post long and flowery happy birthday messages on your S.O.’s Facebook page despite the fact that you’ve been dating for years.

Whether you’re in the relationship or not, new couples are exciting to everyone. It’s interesting to see who people end up pairing up with and what qualities they end up bringing out in each other. But after you’ve been together for a few years, people don’t need to constantly be reminded of how in love you are. So if it’s your S.O.’s birthday, and you’re going to be spending it with them anyway, you can lay off the lengthy FB posts.

Question 21

You call your S.O.’s parents “mom” and “dad.”

If you’re not even married to your S.O. yet and you already call their parents “mom” and “dad,” then that's super weird. And if you are indeed married, then it’s only slightly less weird. While we agree that it can be hard to know what to call your in-laws, giving them the same title that you use for the people that literally created you is definitely a little bizarre. Just saying.

Question 22

You argue about where you’re going to go out to eat every time without fail.

Going out to eat should be fun! It should be a treat! Yet choosing a place is often the start of an argument that will last the rest of the night. While women are often the stereotypical culprits of not being able to pick a restaurant or even a type of food that they want to eat, guys that can’t just make a decision without any input from their girlfriends can be just as big of a problem.

Question 23

After you started dating, you stopped hanging out with your single friends and made new, couple friends.

It’s undeniable that single people have different goals than those who are in a serious relationship. And whether you like it or not, you may find yourself growing apart from the people you used to hang out with the most. However, there’s a difference between maturing into an adult and become so entrenched in your relationship that you start ignoring your friends.

Question 24

You crop together giant photo collages to post on each other’s social media to mark every special occasion.

We all know that couple. They crop together so many photos of themselves over their last half year of dating to publicly mark their six month anniversary. And if that's not bad enough, they put so many photos together that it’s hard to even tell what’s going on in each individual photo!

Question 25

You’ve lied to your friends and told them you were sick so you could stay in with your S.O.?

You know how much it sucks when people pull out of a plan last minute. Therefore, if you make plans with your friends, you should stick to them unless a real emergency or unseeable issue does arise. But faking sick to stay in with your S.O. can be the first sign that you’re becoming too entrenched in your relationship, so keep an eye out.

Question 26

Your co-workers invite you to go out with them after work, what do you do?

Chances are your first serious relationship will probably coincide with your first adult job. There’s bound to be a lot changing in your life, but it’s still important that you maintain your individuality should the relationship not work out for the best. So what do you do when your co-workers want you to hang out with them after work?

Question 27

You constantly talk about what your future babies would look like in front of other people.

messy baby eating spagetti

These days, couples are waiting longer and having fewer babies then they did in previous generations. Therefore, you spend a lot of time fantasizing about having kids instead of actually having them. So do you save this talk for when you’re alone with your S.O., or do you spout off about how gorgeous your babies would be in front of others?

Question 28

You’re not afraid to hurl funny insults at one in other in public for a good laugh.

No one likes an uptight couple that can’t joke around with each other in front of other people. Since you’re bound to know more about your S.O. than anyone else, the insults you could hurl at them could be far funnier than anyone else’s. So long as you don’t reveal any information that is too personal, there’s nothing wrong with loosening up in the presence of others.

Question 29

You guys ALWAYS wear corresponding Halloween costumes.

So if you are going to wear a corresponding outfit with your pet or S.O., we can all agree that Halloween is the time to do it. Sometimes, it’s even funnier if one costume wouldn’t make sense without the other, adding a whole other layer to the humor. However, if it becomes a yearly thing where you ALWAYS have to go together as a joint idea, the novelty could eventually wear out its welcome.

Question 30

The food you order is so good that you want your S.O. to try it, what do you do?

So you’ve miraculously decided where you’re going to go out to eat, and now that your food has been delivered you discover that it is the greatest meal that you’ve ever tasted! Unless you’re a food hoarder, you’re going to want your S.O. to at least try a bite. But how do you choose to go about doing this?

Question 31

You’ve given yourself a celebrity couple name without any sense of irony.

Even for couples as wealthy and influential as Brangelina and Kimye, celebrity couple names are still completely obnoxious. Seriously, how much more time does it take to just say “Brad and Angelina” and "Kim and Kanye"? So if you’ve given you and your S.O. a celebrity couple name, you may want to seriously stop and consider some of your life choices.

Question 32

You’re constantly trying to hook each other's friends up so you can have someone to go on double dates with.

Playing matchmaker can be a good thing if you have a friend that’s a bit on the lonely side and you actually know someone that they’d be compatible with. But if your friends aren’t particularly looking for someone, pretending to be Cupid can quickly become obnoxious. Though it might be hard for you to believe, some people have periods of their life where dating isn’t a priority for them.

Question 33

You’ve broken up multiple times, but you always end up getting back together.

As Jerry Seinfeld once said, breaking up is a bit like trying to knock a Coke machine over -- you need to rock it back and forth a few times before it’s going to fall. Breaking up is hard, and while everyone will go through an on-again/ off-again phase through high school and college, you need to eventually learn to except that when things are over, they’re over.

Question 34

You know that P.D.A. makes some people uncomfortable, so you don’t hold hands/ kiss/ cuddle while hanging out with your friends?

The ideal couple to hang out with are the ones that act like just another couple of friends who are ready to joke around and have a good time. The flip side of this is the couples that are so wrapped up in being romantic and lovey-dovey that they hardly notice they’re hanging out with other people. So do you managed to keep your displays of affection mostly private? Or do you let it all hang out?

Question 35

When you’re with your friends, do you usually brag or complain about your partner?

If you only ever have great things to say about your S.O., then there’s a good chance that you actually have something to hide. Couples are supposed to have disagreements, and this is why you need to maintain a solid friend group to vent to if you’re going through a rough patch. Not to mention that a little time away from your S.O. will put things into perspective and make any disagreement seem like less of a big deal.

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