Are They Cheating On You? Take The Quiz!
- by Kaline Forrester
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When you are in love, the thought of your significant other cheating on you is devastating. Whether you're in a new relationship, have been with your partner for years, or have been married for most of your adult life, it's always hurtful and stressful to have that thought cross your mind. Then you wonder if you are just being paranoid, or if there is really cause for worry. Because at any age, in any kind of relationship, and at any point in a relationship, someone can always cheat. They can cheat emotionally, or they can cheat physically. At work, online, with someone you know... there are so many possibilities of how it could go down, it is hard not to consider what could happen. Luckily, many people never have to deal with that fear becoming a reality. Others are not so lucky, and if you think you may be one of them, this quiz can help you decide if you do need to delve further into your concerns, or if they were likely just the product of you overthinking things.
At the end of the day, no quiz will be able to tell you if your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend is, in fact, cheating on you. The best ways to tell are by using your own gut instinct, and by having an honest conversation. For now, however, you can let this quiz clue you in as to whether you might need to be concerned. Or maybe it will just bring up some things you have never thought to consider as potential signs of cheating. Perhaps it will reassure you that you have nothing to worry about, at all. Good luck!
Have you and your partner been spending a lot less time together than you used to?
One of the major warning signs of infidelity is a marked decrease in the amount of time you two spend as a couple. Is your partner mysteriously absent more often, like for "work"? Does he or she have noticeably less interest in spending alone time with you lately?
Does he or she hide their cell phone and social media from you?
One huge red flag when it comes to cheating in a relationship is if your significant other refuses to allow you access to their social media accounts or cell phone. Now, everyone has the right to privacy of course, but you should trust your gut about their reaction when you ask to see it. If they become defensive or hostile that you even bring it up, or if they change passwords and things like that, something could definitely be up.
Has anyone close to your partner started treating you differently?
There always seems to be one other person (at least) that knows about the affair. This could be a friend, a sibling, or a coworker that is close to your significant other, and since they know what is going on, they will likely treat you differently than normal (most people are not great actors). Pay attention the next time you are around some of the people closest to your partner.
Has he or she recently started working out more?
It is highly possible that if your significant other has recently begun working out and caring more about their looks in general, they really just want to look and feel better. Maybe they are even doing it for you. But there is also the chance that they are trying to impress someone else, too, and that is never good.
How old is your significant other?
With age comes maturity. And while there is no scientific measure of maturity, it is generally accepted that as they get older they will act more and more like responsible adults. Older people also have a lot more to lose, like their husband or wife (versus someone they are causally dating), their children, their home, their assets, etc. There is a lot more risk when an older man with all of these things decides to cheat, and so they may be less likely to.
Does your partner shower as soon as they walk in the door?
It is one thing to want to shower after returning from the gym or a hike or playing sports or something along those lines. But if your significant other just got home from a long day at work, you would think their first instinct would be to kick back, relax, put their feet up, and eat something. But if they want to cover up the smell of alcohol or someone else's perfume or cologne, a hasty shower might make sense.
Have they cheated in the past?
You know that old saying: "Once a cheater, always a cheater." This is of course not true for everyone, but there could be some truth behind it, depending on who your significant other is. Some people truly do never learn from their mistakes, and continue to repeat them over and over. If your partner has cheated in the past, they are more likely to do so than someone who never has.
Have you been doing the deed less often lately?
If you and your significant other have been having sex a lot less than you usually do, that could be a sign that something is up. Unless there is something major going on in his or her life, like a stressful job change or a death in the family, there should be no reason that they suddenly want to be with you less. It could be a warning sign that they are getting it somewhere else.
Is your partner unable to commit to plans?
If your partner is unwilling to make plans with you, like for dinner at a certain time, that might be a clue that he or she is cheating. If they are never sure when they will be done with work, for example, be on the lookout for other signs that something is amiss.
Is he or she always making up lame excuses?
Having a real reason for being late or why you don't want to go out tonight is one thing, like if your partner is feeling under the weather, for example. But it is something else entirely when silly excuses become more and more frequent. If your significant other doesn't want to go out because "you went out last month" (dumb), you may have a problem on your hands.
Is your partner closing doors more often?
Couples in long-term relationships often leave their bedroom door open when changing clothes, or the bathroom door open when they shower or use the toilet. This is a sign of love and intimacy and closeness. If your partner has started to close the door more than usual, an affair may be developing.
Has there been money missing?
Recently, if your finances have seemed a little off, there could be a sinister reason for it. Maybe he has been spending money on a new love interest. Maybe she has been buying new clothes to look good for someone else. Either way, missing money without a good solid explanation could be a major red flag about your relationship.
Has your partner accused you of cheating?
This would be called deflecting. He or she wants to take the suspicion off of themselves, and put it back on you. But don't let it work. If this is the case (and if there is no reason whatsoever for them to be suspicious of you), then they may be the one really doing the cheating.
Does your partner mix up their stories?
If a person is lying about something, they often get so caught up in the lie that they forget what they lied about in the first place. This is especially true if it has been an ongoing lie that has taken place over an extended period of time. He or she may sometimes forget what they lied about, the details of the lie, or what they did or did not tell you.
Did he or she mysteriously contract an STD?
It does happen, but most of the time if your partner mysteriously comes down with an STD that had never been an issue before, you need to take a good, hard look at your relationship, because there is a good chance you are being cheated on. A toilet seat will not give you a disease, and if it didn't come from you, the outlook is not good.
Are you married, or practically married?
This may not seem important because anyone can be cheated on, whether you are married, been in a long-term relationship, or are just dating. But if you have been together for a very long time and been through the ups and downs of life together, your bond is undoubtedly a lot stronger and harder to break than if you've known the person for a few months.
Do you have children together?
This is an important question to address because even if a couple is on the rocks, if they share children, they may think twice about cheating, which would effect more than just themselves and their partner. By cheating, he or she would be tearing apart a family, and that might just be enough to stop them from doing it, even if things are not going well between the two of you or they have another love interest.
What does your gut say?
Trusting your gut instinct can be a hard thing to do, because it often means you have no tangible proof of something. But there is something to be said for that gut feeling you have probably experienced a few times before. Sometimes, all you can do is trust yourself.
Have they suggested you spend time with other people?
This does not necessarily mean in a romantic way (although if that is how they meant it, there is your clue right there). But if your partner all of a sudden thinks its a great idea for you to broaden your horizons, meet new people, hang out with friends more often, etc., then that could mean that they are cheating. Encouraging you to get out more means they can do so, too, and probably also lessens their sense of guilt.
Does he or she screen their calls around you?
Perhaps if your significant other has always preferred not to talk on the phone around you or others, that is normal for them. But most of the time, if your partner is purposely screening his phone calls in front of you, it means that there is someone on the other end of the line that they do not want to have a conversation with in front you. Obviously, there is something between them that you are not privy to.
Has he or she become increasingly critical of you?
This could be an indicator that something is wrong in your relationship. If you partner has become increasingly critical of you, even for the little things that seem so minor, it could be a bad sign. If he or she blames you for things, accuses you of things, or just has a way of putting you on the defensive, it could be a way to make them feel better about what they are doing.
Has your partner been buying you more things lately?
This may seem counterintuitive, but if your significant other has mysteriously been treating you much better than usual, it might mean something bad. Of course, it could just be that they want to spoil you because they love you so much. But it could also be them trying to alleviate their guilt over cheating. Pay attention to if they are much more attentive and giving than they are normally.
During an argument, does he or she jump straight to breaking up?
One thing that should never be thrown in your face during a fight is breaking up. In a healthy relationship, a couple knows how to "fight fair", and threatening to leave or break up is not fighting in a healthy way. If your partner's immediate response to a fight is ending things between you, it should be a red flag.
Has he or she stopped saying "I love you"?
This is a major clue that something is amiss between the two of you. Usually (after a certain period of time, that is) a couple says "I love you" quite often. If this was the case in your relationship, the fact that he or she says it less often, or not at all, is worrisome.
How is your PDA?
PDA stands for public display of affection. This term encompasses many forms of physical affection, such as holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc. Some couples love to show their love off to the world, but some are more modest with their affection in public. If the PDA between you and your partner has lessened, they could be cheating on you.
